In this episode, Taylor tells us that sometimes the only thing we need is to reset our grid. Be in control with one area in your life, consistently and repeatedly. And that control will bleed into other areas of your life.
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Yo crew, good morning, good afternoon, good evening. Glad you're here. Welcome to a Daily Mind Medicine. I wanna give you some perspective real fast.
I was telling a friend this story at the gym this morning. It's 7:00 AM and just wrapped up my exercise time and headed to spend some time with the fam.
But I was telling him this story and he was like, wow, that's an incredible story. And I've only told this story to maybe two or three people, and it was impactful enough with him that I wanted to share it with you today.
And I think that you'll appreciate this. I was speaking at a conference or a small event a couple of weeks ago, and I was sharing some of my lessons from 2022 because 2022 was a difficult year for me.
It was kind of a reset year, if we're honest. You may not have been able to see that or tell that from the outside because what do you do when you're going through problems and resets?
You just kind of keep going. But for me it was difficult. It was a time of having to make difficult choices.
And I was sharing some of the lessons from last year and a lot of those lessons are lessons that were revealed to me in the midst of different failure points and areas of weakness and areas that, you know, I just had to kind of get a grip on and, and wrestle with and, and fix for the future.
And somebody comes up to me after my talk and he says, man, thank you for being honest. Thank you for being vulnerable and thank you for sharing what you shared.
Can I share a story with you? I said, yes, absolutely. He said, in 2008 I had several thousand multi-family apartment units.
And over the span of 15 to 18 months, I lost all of them and friends that I had. All my friends lost everything.
And at one point I was getting calls randomly during the middle of the day. Somebody would drive by one of my buildings.
They would call me and say, we need a million bucks, so we're gonna have to take this unit. And that happened for 15 months.
It was a long freaking time, guys, like 15 months is a long, that's a long time. And he said in the middle of that, I had to declare bank go through a bankruptcy and my bankruptcy attorney committed suicide cuz there was so much trauma and so much failure is so much loss that even our attorneys were like done with it.
And I had a realization that I woke up one morning and had a realization that a year from now I would still be alive as long as I didn't kill myself, as long as I don't jump off a building like I'm still gonna be here in a year from now.
And that was the only bit of control that I needed to rally and make it through. Two lessons from this story.
The first is a lesson of perspective. Cuz a lot of times we moan and Complain and whine about things that are really not that big of a deal.
And the human mind doesn't understand, good, bad, better, worse. We only understand these things in context and comparison to other situations.
So sometimes the only thing you need is to reset your grid and your perspective to understand what is truly bad and what is not.
But the second thing is where are your areas of control? Can you get control in one area and that one area is enough and it bleeds into another area and then it bleeds into another area.
For this guy, it was, as long as I don't, as not as long as I don't harm myself, I'm gonna be okay.
I'm going to survive. I'm gonna live, I'm gonna make it, and I will still be alive. Whether I'm rich or poor, I'll still be alive as long as I don't change that.
And for him, that was his area, his locus of control. It was his opportunity to bring control back into his own body, into his own mind.
And sometimes if you're really going through it, the the feeling you have is a lack of control. I don't control anything.
I'm, this is being happened. All this happening to me, it's being done to me and I can't get ahead of it and I'm behind eight ball and blah, blah, blah.
But my friends, you have an opportunity to create control in. It may be a small area, just pick one area, control it.
Oftentimes these can be little, little things, little areas. The time you wake up, whether you go to the gym, how long you're at the gym, whether you do an end of day review.
They don't have to be big, massive things. But you get control in one area consistently and repeatedly. And then that control bleeds into other areas.
That's all I got. Let's push, let's make it an amazing couple of years together. Audio.