In this episode, Taylor talks about handling anxiety. He talks about how anxiety is not there to kill us but it is present because it is trying to show us something. Grab the lesson from your anxiety and fear and make the decision ultimately that fear is no longer serving you in the best possible way.
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What's up crew? Hope you're doing well. I want to talk to you about anxiety, talking with one of our amazing clients.
She runs a fantastic business. We were talking about anxiety a little bit because like all brilliant coaches or trainers, entrepreneurs, people who are good at transferring skill or viewpoints to other people, at a certain point, you have to decide where you want to go and how big you want to go.
And she's developing you know, she has these options and people think that optionality sometimes cures everything, but it also creates its own problems.
And you've experienced that if you went from poor and now you're not, or you know, you, you got into a season of your life where you unlocked a bunch of different options.
It can create overwhelm, not really sure what to do or where to move. I remember when we were in Memphis, Tennessee, my wife and I, we always wanted to live in somewhere, somewhere different.
We talked about Minneapolis or Nashville. Been to California a few times, like it'd be great to live in California anywhere, but Memphis <laugh> nothing against Memphis.
If you live in Memphis, it's great, but we didn't like, we did not like Memphis. We were like, we gotta live somewhere else.
Somebody, somewhere that's inspiring. And I'll never forget when we finally got to a place financially where we can move somewhere else, it was overwhelming deciding where do we want to go?
And my wife was like, Nashville, is it? I wasn't so certain. I was like, well, I'm gonna make a pros and cons list.
I had 12 cities and I'm looking through everything and I'm exhausted mentally fatigued, because sometimes optionality tests the decision making muscle that you've had, that you've never had to use because your situations in life have always governed you, you've never governed the situations.
So that's for another podcast another day. But anyways, this person's at this place in their life where they're trying to make a decision about where they want to go.
And the challenging part is, you know, they're feeling fatigued and a little bit in a space where they're just feeling mentally, not all, not a hundred percent certain in themselves and where they're going.
And she made a statement. She says, I hate feeling this way. And I responded and I said, the more you hate feeling a certain way, ironically enough, the more you're likely going to feel that way.
I said, try this. And I gave her a story from my own experience. You know, lately you know, I've been through the last 12 to 15 months have been crazy chaos.
And we don't, at some point I will give you details, but for now, suffice it to say that everything I thought I was going to Be, be doing for many, many years, a year and a half ago, I'm no longer doing those things.
And the things I'm doing now are, are just as exciting, maybe even more exciting. And they're, you know, like, the next run of my life is going to be insane.
And it's already becoming insane. And I don't even want to get into numbers right now, but you gotta know that what I'm working on right now is, this is the coolest thing I've ever worked on.
The portfolio of projects that I'm working on right now, the portfolio of clients that I've, that we're really investing into right now, it's, it's, it's unbelievable.
But to get here was a war. So I was telling this client, I was like, I've been feeling anxiety. And the anxiety I've been feeling is from, I think an old place.
It's coming from an old place. But I kept trying to fight it and get rid of it and just challenge its authority.
And, you know, the moment that I began to stop fighting it, and I got curious about it, and I asked this question, what is this anxiety trying to teach me?
Is there anything to learn from it? This began to be curious about it. There were some lessons underneath the surface, and the anxiety was coming from fear that did not make sense.
And the fear did not make sense intellectually, because it's not possible. But the emotional state rarely lines up with mathematics or arithmetic or intellectuality.
Like it's the, the, the emotions that you feel are often coming from old places, old wounds, old triggers, old situations, old scenarios.
And one of the best ways that you can deal with your anxiety or to deal with your fear is to become curious about it.
Where is this trying to help me? You've gotta realize that your insecurities and your fears, and even your anxieties, they're not, they're not present because they're trying to kill you.
They're present because they are trying to serve you or help you or show you something. And you have to grab the lessons from them and then make the decision ultimately that this fear is no longer serving me in the best way possible.
Thank you for your service, but it's time to move on. Only once you become curious and uncover the reason that something is present, can you govern it and direct it and choose to move it out of the seat in your life that is making decisions?
Adios, see you tomorrow.